November 12 “The holiest of all holidays are those kept by ourselves in silence and apart; The secret anniversaries of the heart.” HENRY WADSWORTH LONGFELLOW
The holidays are fast approaching and we’re experiencing familiar stirrings of excitement and expectation. But this year, because we’re seriously ill, a part of us wishes that Thanksgiving, Chanukah, or Christmas had already come and gone. There are some very real problems. We can’t travel, and won’t be able to participate in traditional family get-togethers. It’s obvious that no one in the family feels particularly festive; because of our illness, each day is clouded with uncertainty and it’s hard to make holiday plans. Then there are questions which, while speculative, are no less troubling. What kind of celebration, if any, should there be? What if we have to bow out at the last minute? What if we take a turn for the worse? Let’s try to put negativity and speculation aside and remember this: No matter how serious our condition, we are still capable of loving and being loved. Isn’t that what celebrations are all about? As for making holiday plans, why not go forward with optimism and faith? If need be, the family’s regular celebration can be followed by a special smaller one in our room. Holidays of course represent different things to different people. But expressions of joy, gratitude, and faith are always beneficial and healing.
THOUGHT FOR TODAY This holiday season, I will celebrate faith, love, and hope.
Dorian, J.S.. Above and Beyond: 365 Meditations for Transcending Chronic Pain and Illness . Central Recovery Press, LLC. Kindle Edition.
I have faith that our holidays will work out the way they are supposed to and that all will be good. This year we are gathering at Cracker Barrel to eat. This is the first time I will celebrate a holiday like this. I think I am going to love not cooking or cleaning up after myself and others. Over the last 6 years we have not had the kids around during the holidays as we didn't live very close. This year it is different and just the fact that we get to see them all on the same day. I am blessed!